Do you love yourself?...
Maybe, that's probably a tough question for some of you since you are reading this...
But I want you to know that you are not alone.
In this society, it's rather hard to find a person without any insecurities about their own body and loving themselves fully.
There are just too many things that bring us down, espeically because of the internet and twisted belief systems shared in this world.
I understand there are many people who are insecure about our own bodies and struggling to love ourselves, just like I was the same.
So if you want to change that and love yourself by becoming really confident and enjoy your life without ever being shameful of your body...
Keep on reading to find out how to develop self-love that can never be taken away and be a star!
I wrote this article hoping to rewire your negative limiting beliefs about the body, and bring some positive perception shift to your mind so you can finally develop self-love and self-esteem which are necessary for having a quality life :)
Here's what you'll learn in this article today:
... and many more.
1. Understanding Your Negative Emotional Reaction & Insecurity
So many of us have some kind of insecurities about our own body image, from the smallest (you barely worry) to big ones that you can't stop worrying about. It's completely different in individual level. However, being a little bit insecure about your own body is totally okay.
Trust me almost everyone has it!
I was the same. In the old days, I didn't have confidence about my appearance even though people usually told me that I'm handsome which I was very happy to hear even if it's just a compliment.
But did it help me become confident?
Yup, to some extent... but for temporally.
They didn't give me enough confidence or take my insecurities away.
Doesn't this sound familiar to you?
Your friends tell that you look "good"... but you can't fully believe in their words and you still struggle to have confidence no matter how much people tell you so.
1-1: Developing the Confidence that Nobody Else Can Take Away
Confidence is gone.
You don't like yourself. You can't stop help but worrying about how others are seeing you... pretty much all the time, even if you want to STOP doing that.
Do these things often happen to you?
This happens because you are quite insecure about your own body image or the way you are.
I'm sure at some point of your life, you've had (still have) those people or friends who unnecessary make fun of your body parts or the way you are... and you probably had to smile away (even though it hurts you inside).
And when you realize? Your confidence gone, you can't stop worrying about how others are seeing you.
Maybe, that's been you...
But you REALLY shouldn't give a shit about what others have to say or think about you. Don't take their words personally, because they can never define you, they are only defining themselves by defining the version of you in their mind.
Which person do you want to be?
Remember it's simply your choice, whichever you believe.
1-2: You Are Seeing Yourself Through Your Own Filters (Perceptions)
True confidence never comes from outside but from within.
Yes, that's it. But sadly, many people don't know this and they are obsessed with their own image of "beauty" and try to reach it even going through dozen of plastic surgeries.
This 35 year old guy spent even $100K to look like the infamous pop star, Justin Bieber.
But there are many people like him who does anything to be someone else, to achieve the image of their own "beauty". Well, I'm not blaming them or something! Nothing's wrong with that at all, we all have the desire (including myself) to look good.
We all have a different percenption of what ''beauty" looks like (that you want to be) and what we actually look like. Of course, there's a gap between the two images which is very normal, however, many people are not feeling "beautiful" just because they think they are not close enough to the image of their own "beauty".
Just because you don't look like her/him, doesn't mean you are not beautiful. Everyone is beautiful in their own way!
1-3: Be Responsible for Your Own Emotion
So no matter how much people tell you that "you are beautiful"... if your own definition about your appearance doesn't match to the image of your "beauty", you wouldn't feel beautiful. It's because nobody else is actually making you feel happy or beautiful, most emotions are all coming from your own definitions about things.
Where do you feel emotions?
You don't feel emotion outside of you, do you?
You FEEL them inside you, through your soul.
"Happiness does not depend on what you have or who you are. It solely relies on what you think." - Buddha
1-4: Beyond Your Physical Boundaries
Now, you know the core problem, and you want to change it so that you can live your life being super confident where you never have to be afraid or bothered by how others seeing you as if you are our role model Miley Cyrus...
Hey, I'm just kidding!
I know you don't have any intention to show off like her :-)
Well anyways... Let's forget about her and move on.
Things aren't that simple when it comes to changing your definition since it's a programming in your mind. However, there's an effective way to cope with your insecurity coming from your negative body images and boost your confidence (which I'm talking in detail in this article).
To do this, I want you to understand about relations between your mind and physical body first.
A physical body has its limitations and boundaries defined by the natural conditioning as known as "genetics". Everyone knows it, but it's NOT the whole truth.
It is not what you've thought you knew or learned in school.
Although, a Japanese scientist Dr. Masaru Emoto did experiments on how the human consciousness energy (thoughts & emotion) can affect water crystals. Watch the video below to see his experiments:
His study is very interesting, I recommend you watch this video to deepen your understandings about the human consciousness power.
After watching this video, I know you just imagined how bad your negative thoughts would be affecting your body... It's obvious that low vibrational (negative) frequencies are harming your cells. Diseases (except congenital ones) are result of accumulating negative energy for so long.
2. Healing Your Negative Body Images
The physical mind has a certain belief (idea) that defines standards for 'beauty', this belief varies from person to person, it also varies on the basis of the country, race and culture we come from.
Look at this, this is what ideal woman body loks like in 18 countries according to UK online pharmacy Superdrug Online Doctors.
As you can see, in different countries and culture, we can see differences in preference.
Every person has his/her different standards/preference by which they judge "beauty" and this personal preference is usually coming from a natural belief system established in the subconscious mind, but it also comes from the external world that we get from our society which can usually hide our natural preference.
2-1: Don't Focus on Judgemental Thoughts
The physical mind tends to automatically compare and judge things, this is a very natural tendency of the mind. So, we tend to judge our body based on the standards of physical beauty image in our mind and external ideas coming from our society.
I can tell more than 80% of people have this negative body images, especially in today's age where there is so much exposure to the outside world due to the internet. People are unconsciously comparing themselves to other people there and being affected by their people's thoughts and opinions in day to day life without being aware of it.
"Comparison is an act of violence against the self." − Iyanla Vanzant
And the worst of all...
The negative perceptions you have towards yourself would affect your reality too, since that's how energy works, you can't expect someone treats you good even if you don't believe in the value of yourself.
2-2: Dissolving Negative Perceptions
Once these negative body images are embedded into your mind, you have no option but to keep fueling the physical mind's judgemental, negative, thoughts about the body.
This is an unconscious living - where you are not in charge of your thoughts and emotions − you are helplessly pulled around by your mind constantly. You don't want to stay there, right?
Don't worry I'll teach you how to get out of it in a bit.
From this higher perspective where you are totally conscious of the mind, you can understand more clearly that your body is unique the way it is and there's no need of changing it at all!
2-3: How to Start Loving Yourself & Your Body
When you truly accept yourself, the way your body is, you will allow for it natural expression to be filed. This means you will be able to express yourself fearlessly the way you are, and no longer being influenced by some negative judgement that may come from the outside.
You either accept your body or stay being insecure. You can never move forward without self-acceptance.
Without self-acceptance, there is no self-love.
Remember, in the end, it's not about voices from the outside, rather it's about your definition (inner response) that defines your experience of a moment.
2-4: We Are All Unique & Beautiful
So you need to truly accept the way you are and stop being judgemental about your body, just because it's different from other people's or the image of your beauty in the mind. Everyone's different.
By loving your body, you will be able to see the beauty inherent in everyone and not be rooted in any shallow, or surface level, judgements about others. You will find beauty everywhere because it's within you and your reality has no choice but to reflect it back to you as it is since it's made of your consciousness. Confident people are sexy. Right?
3. Enhancing Your Light & Being True Self
By accepting your body, you will not only start loving your body but bring alignment with the body and raise your vibrational frequency. Love is one of the strongest positive emotions and this kind of higher energy can attract more good things coming into your life as well as enhancing your light in the whole level. That's a huge bonus for loving yourself, so why not love yourself?
Remember self-love is the most powerful way to heal your body and mind, and necessary for you in order to express the light of your being (the real you) through your physical form, that's what makes you truly SHINE as a person.
It doesn't matter how beautiful your body is on the surface, if you are not letting the light of your being shine through enough, you are lacking the "essence of being", which we are all attracted more in other person rather than just the body.
3-1: Your Essence of Being is What Counts Most
Through life, we understand that physical looks don't define attraction but it's the essence of being that truly makes the person attractive, especially for the long term. We all have this essence in us because we are all the same being, but some of us mask our true nature essence with the negativity/shallowness coming from the underdeveloped (immature) mind.
Are you really attracted to the person who's physically handsome/pretty but with an ugly personality (the essence of being)?
Nope. At least most of us don't, unless you are just looking for one night stand :-)
You get turned off by him/her no matter how beautiful that person may be unless you have a weird tendency to like ugly personalities...
We don't fall in love with people, we fall in love with the reflection of ourselves we find in people.
3-2: Understanding the Desire to Look Good
We all have the desire to look good which is very natural for the mind to crave for it, and there's no need of opposing or suppressing the desire.
Just release the energy through you. If you allow it, the desire will manifest into your reality in ways that will make your body look/feel better by bringing some physical changes to your body − you may feel inspired to eat healthy, do some workout, use cosmetic products, wear a certain clothing style or take a surgery to rectify a certain deformity of the body (as long as the desire isn't coming from fear/lack, you can be in alignment with yourself).
In today's age, most people take these kinds of action based on their fear/lack.
Don't believe me? Then think about WHY you want to look better deep inside.
You want to look better... maybe because you want to impress other people, you want it because you think you are not enough, you want it because you don't like your own body.
These negative beliefs are usually behind most of your desires, even if you're not aware of them.
And if your desire is based on fear or lack, it means you are NOT in alignment with your well-being, true self, or higher self - you name it.
3-3: Respect the Beauty of Others & Yours
You want to look good, and it doesn't make you egoistic or vain at all, however if your are identified with the mind filled by the negative body images of your body and having narrow judgemental thoughts towards others based on their looks, this makes you a very shallow person and it will also prevent your nature being from shining through, which will make you very unattractive to others, and to yourself.
So drop these limitations and ideas of "beauty", and redefine what "beauty" is for yourself, in a way you prefer and choose to believe in that. Not what the society pushes us.
3-4: Stop Trying to Be Someone Else You Are Not
There are a lot of people who are trying hard to change their body, and constantly keep failing at it. Those people are not internally aligned with their nature being which cause them have "negative body image" in their mind and would attract realities that make them feel that way, it's a vicious cycle.
If you are in this negative cycle and want to get out of it, then you first need to STOP trying to change your body and accept the way your body is.
Only then you can start healing negativity coming from a place of lack/fear and love yourself.
Once you healed your negativity, you will no longer feel necessary to change your body anymore because you are truly accepting the way you are and very comfortable with your body.
Become the Best Version of Yourself!
If you truly become in alignment with your nature being, a lot of synchronicities will start occurring in physical level which is an essential process for manifesting your desired image of the body into this reality.
In the end, it's only the matter of your definition within, how you "accept" (define) the circumstance is what defines your experience about it, never the outside. Got it?
Lastly, take this word from me as a reminder to your soul.
We believe we all have "flaws" that we are imperfect, but God never created something "imperfect", he designed everything in the Universe to be perfect including you. Imperfection is only an illusion of the mind's perception coming from a place of lack.
Please remember you are imperfectly perfect beyond your mind.
Love yourself and cherish others.
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