October 18


How to Stop Being Addicted to Thoughts for Your Wellbeing

After releasing my very first article which is about Mind Power, some of my readers came up to me asking what they can do to stop their obsessive negative thoughts... because... you know they SUCK! 

Well, I think I can help you with this matter since there was a time I suffered from depression myself, and I've managed to overcome it on my own without taking any medicine or therapy.

So today I want to share some tips on how to stop being addicted to thoughts from my own experience and knowledge about the mind.

Hopefully, I can help you even a little bit :)

What You'll Learn In This Article

  • How we become addicted to thoughts & what's behind them
  • Understanding how obsessive thoughts affect you & your reality
  • How to identify your subconscious thought patterns
  • How to let go of your obsessive negative thinking patterns


Firstly, I want to make things clear, mental disorder could happen to anyone, no matter who you are.

That's why you should never be ignorant about your own mind...

I've never had imagined before that I would ever suffer from mental disorder one day. There's no way it can happen to this me, that's exactly what I was thinking. But you know somehow it happened. The negativity started overflowing and it consumed me, I had to suffer a lot.

Your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy.

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I'm telling you this because there's a possibility for anyone to experience the same thing, out of nowhere, and it always starts from a small thought that you probably didn't even care before. The worst part is if you don't know how to deal with negative thoughts, you could easily fall into a vicious cycle and you'll begin catching yourself thinking about it over and over being overwhelmed by them every day... Damn it.


It gets only worse if you don't do anything against it − if you keep allowing it to happen, it will results you in ending up in a state of mind what doctors call "mental disorders".

I'm sure you don't want to fall for it, or maybe you're already struggling with it...

Either you want to know how to deal with your negative thoughts or get out of this vicious cycle and be happier and healthier so you can enjoy your life. You're in the right place buddy.

It's very CRUCIAL for you to understand and learn how to LET GO of baggage in your mind, even though "letting go" is one of the most challenging things for anyone since we are all addicted to some kind of thoughts and subconsciously holding onto them which is also a part of our identity.

1. Understanding Your Obsessive Thoughts

Here's a twist.

Everyone has some kind of compulsive thinking and living in his "thought patterns" in daily life.

This is the fundamental of who you are in personality level. However, you must know that one compulsive thought could help you
attract good things into your life or could be harmful and demolish your health (it can affect you physically and psychologically), and this is all depending on its context of your thoughtpositive or negative.

You can easily find out if that thought is positive or not, by simply observing your emotion towards that thought. Since everything in this universe is created based on "yin and yang" (the positive and the negative), like this, your each emotion/thought can be separated into yin and yang as well, either positive or negative.

You can easily judge your emotion by the guide below:


Love   Joy   Appreciation   Empowerment   Passion   Freedom

Inspired  Compassion  Happiness  Enthusiasm  Eagerness  Open-Hearted

Optimism   Positive Expectation/Belief   Worthy   Confidence   Courage

Hopefulness   Acceptance   Faith   Encouraged   Contentment   Trust

Neutrality (Stillness)

Lonely   Frustration   Blame   Doubtful   Disappointment   Pessimism

Anger   Discouragement   Revenge   Jealousy   Insecurity   Worry

Fear   Sadness   Anxiety   Abandoned   Ashamed  Unloved

Despair   Depression   Grief   Hopelessness   Hatred   Powerless

The higher it's better.

If that thought (perspective) is believed as "positive" in your subconscious mind, you will have "good" emotion when you experience that thought. If not, you will feel bad about it.


Compulsive thinking is defined as "negative" in this society, because, in most cases, people are addicted to their negative pattern instead of positive ones. Many of us are living and making decisions based on fear without ever being aware of them.

This is not your fault, but rather our society system's since it's based on fear in many aspects. So we are influenced by them and programmed to think that way.

Even the peace we have is maintained by "fear" due to weapons such as nuclear. Our peace can be easily fallen apart with a single push to the button but luckily it hasn't happened so far yet, because we are afraid of the consequences. I hope we are smart enough to not destroy ourselves.

Fear is used everywehere, from marketing, business, education, to politics and so on... pretty much everywhere.

Fear is deeply programmed into this world and it's a very strong force. Well, why is that?

It's simple, there's nothing better than "fear" to CONTROL/MANIPULATE people, and the people in the power know that well, they've been doing that for thousands of years on this planet. 

Trump is a good example, he literally used fear (against immigrants and muslim) in people to gain popularity, saying they are the problem and stealing your jobs. It's exactly how Hitler gained popularity too, he did the same for Jewish people when Germany was struggling with its economics. It's always easy to blame others than yourself, it takes a lot of courage to admit that you're responsible for your own life after all.

Peace can't be kept by force

Unfortunately, fear is so familiar with us that most people are always worrying about something in life.

So our brain is subconsciously in the habit of looking at reality in a negative way. But what the hell is exactly causing that? I'll go into more detail about this below.

1-1: The Root Cause of Your Compulsive Thoughts 

Due to the habit, there are many people struggling with their own mind in the society, in a form of depression, OCD, anxiety and so on. The reason for its cause could be different for each person, however, in most cases, the origin of these mental issues and obsessive thoughts are coming from a particular belief strongly associated with fear (negativity) from past traumas, emotional pains, and such, these negative beliefs are basically existing deep in your subconscious mind. 

You will conquer fear or Fear will conquer you.

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1-2: How Certain Thoughts Becomes Addictive

You experience thoughts around.....

70000 times Per Day

Isn't it nuts? It's obvious that if you were taking EACH thought seriously and personally, your head will explode... but it does NOT happen, only because you're unconsciously choosing ONLY some of them so the rest doesn't matter.

That's crazy, isn't it!?


You are consciously/unconsciously choosing a few of thoughts and let them affect you in your daily life. Most of thoughts are just there passing through your head, and they don't matter to you.

However, a few of them (thoughts) will matter, because you unconsciously pick up them and choose to believe in them − this process is NECESSARY to define and create your personality. These thoughts are like seeds that can potentially become your beliefs or compulsive thoughts.

The problem with your subconscious pattern, is that you take it for granted and believing it as the TRUTH of who you are, when it's nothing more than a subconscious pattern - simply a thought pattern that has been thought SO many times that it's become an "automatic" thinking which comes up to your mind over and over without your allowance or intention.

1-3: How to Free Your Negative Thoughts

You can become free from these negative thinking patterns by being aware of them and consciously dis-identifying them through relaxing your focus/attention whenever it arises. 

I'm gonna talk about this in more detail at 2-3, so keep on reading :-)

2. Identifying Subconscious Patterns

neural network

As I've talked in the previous article, most of our decisions, actions, emotions, thought patterns, and behavior depend on the 95% of brain activity that is beyond our conscious awareness.


You are only operating your brain at the maximum of 1-5% and the rest of 95% is handled by your subconscious mind which is totally on "autopilot" mode, because at some point of your life, you have acknowledged these patterns as the *truth* of your life and invested your belief in them to the point where they got ingrained in your subconscious mind.

2-1: How Thoughts Transform Into Beliefs

When you think a thought long enough, it becomes an automatic thinking (belief) because the neural pathways for this thought become strongly embedded into neural network of your brain.

For example, when you drive a car for the first time, you pay so much attention which is a very conscious effort, but after a year, the whole action of driving becomes subconscious mode where you no longer have to pay attentions constantly unlike the first time.

In a sense, it's a habit that gets developed by repeating the same process all over again for a long time and the exact same thing could be said for thoughts as well.

This is the process of how a new thought becoming a strongly established belief in your subconscious mind. No thoughts ever become "beliefs" over a night or a few days, is the result of weeks/months of having the same thought about it so many times. Simply put, the more attention you give to a thought, the stronger it becomes.

2-2: Negativity Attracts More Negativity 

Certain negative thoughts are running on autopilot mode in your brain, and these negative thoughts are mostly the root cause of many other negative perceptions and interpretations that you come up with in your daily life.


Unless you identify and stop holding onto the root cause of beliefs that producing the negative pattern in your mind, you will constantly have to face the negativity that automatically comes up on your mind, which is extremely exhausting and stressful.

2-3: How to Neutralize Your Negative Thoughts & Emotions

I want you to remember that the real problem isn't the "negative pattern" itself, but HOW you choose to respond to it, will determine your next experience about that thought.

Many of us tend to take thought patterns very personally and get affected by them as soon as they arise, while some people can remain completely calm and relaxed where they are just observing their thoughts and emotions without being affected by them − it is the state where you are fully in charge of your thoughts and emotion, instead of they controlling you.

This ultimate calmness can be easily achieved through using the technique (let's call it "Cinematic Viewing") which I've taught you here. Using the Cinematic Viewing, you will no longer become the slave to your mind. By practicing it in your daily life, you can increase your control level over your thoughts and emotions significantly.

This is a extremely powerful visualization method I use to neutralize anything that comes up to my mind, so I recommend you to try this if you are having a hard time to deal with negative thoughts or emotions.

Now, let me show you how you can do that with the screenshot I took from the previous article :)

How to Cinematic Viewing:

How to observe your thoughts

3. Subconscious Patterns & How They Affect You

"Subconscious mind" is simply a term used to point to activities that are generally beyond your awareness and running on autopilot mode. These subconscious patterns (beliefs) become observable when you deepen your awareness, and will be able to see it clearly how these patterns are underlying many of your perceptions and interpretations you come up with in your daily life. 


Remember that every subconscious pattern was simply once a "new thought" that you ingrained and believed.

These are some of negative patterns (limiting-beliefs) many of us have:

  • Life is hard!
  • I need to compete with others to succeed in life!
  • People always leaves me!
  • It's tough to earn money!
  • I can't trust anyone!
  • I'm incomplete and never will be!
  • I don't deserve to be happy because I'm a bad person!
  • No one loves me!

Aren't some of the beliefs familiar to you?

You've had these thoughts at some point of your life and accepted as the truth of who you are or what reality is, and they may be running on autopilot mode presently. These core negative beliefs are the root cause of new negative perceptions and interpretation, which are constantly produced in your mind.


These patterns have a really big influence over you, because you are seeing them as the truth, so in a way, what you don't believe has NO power over you

So for example, what if someone told you are ugly even you are not?

As soon as you hear it, I'm sure many of you will immediately start worrying about your looks and how others seeing you (unless you have an absolute confidence in yourself).

Otherwise, you start to become insecure about your appearance, because YOU believe you are ugly, NOT because someone else said so.

Makes sense?

So in a way, if you are truly believing your own worth and value, you will never be affected by someone's opinion of you. You know you are beautiful no matter what, so even if someone else thinks you are not, you are completely fine, where understanding that someone's idea of you does NOT define who you really are. Because it really doesn't, unless you let their opinion of you define you.

With that said, remember you are the only ONE who can define yourself!

"Calling a man "stupid" who truly sees himself as a genius is nonsense." 

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3-1: Nobody Else Can Define Who You Are

Nothing can define you, except yourself, you are defining/creating yourself (who you are) by comparing yourself to other people in your reality. Your emotional reaction/subconscious pattern is simply a reflection of what you are believing as TRUE, and they come from your own definitions about things, never outside circumstance.

"Circumstances do not matter, the only state of being matters." − Bashar

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3-2: Definitions Rule Your Subconscious Patterns 

Perspective (definition) is everything, it's all about how you CHOOSE to see it.


For example, let's say we live in the same neighborhood or country, but the world looks completely different depending on a person, since we are seeing our own world through different filters (our own perspectives and beliefs) which could be a lot different depending on its environment they grow up in. Some think this world is a wonderful beautiful place, while for some people, it's only chaotic and cruel.

A girl grown up from a poor family, and a girl from a rich family have very different way of seeing life, so is their experience in life. Different mindset, different realities.

Like this way, everyone is living in his/her subconscious thought patterns created by their own definitions, and experiencing/seeing this physical reality through their own perspectives.


You are in your own consciousness − having the mind with full of negativity is the same as living in hell, so make sure that your home is a comfortable place since that's the only place you have to live

3-3: You Are Beyond Your Beliefs & Mind

Remember you always have the power to change your consciousness, it's never separated from you. You are the consciousness itself and have the total freedom to choose everything!

Believe it or not, as a soul, you chose your place, you chose your parents, you chose your sexuality, you chose your thoughts, you chose your emotion, you chose what to believe... you chose everything around you.

Doesn't matter whether your physical mind DO NOT think so or can't understand it. This is the universal fact that no one can change. Also, it's impossible for the physical mind to understand it anyway.

Eckhart Tolle

"When you realize all things that truly matter - beauty, love, creativity, joy, inner peace - arise from beyond the mind, you begin to awaken."

3-4: Everything is a Choice in the Universe

The universe unconditionally loves you and has given each soul the "Free Will" to experience your realities. It doesn't judge good or bad, it's a human perspective. As we are all part of his creation, you get to choose everything, but you forgot this fact when you came down to this physical reality. Many people abandoned the responsibility for their own life and experiences, they're living like a victim of their own reality.

However you choose to live, is your total choice as the creator of your own reality and the universe always admires his son/daughter's will, unconditionally. That is what an unconditional love all about.


Just because you have the freedom to choose what you want doesn't mean you can do whatever you want for your own self-satisfaction. You should never do something that will hurt or harm others (except protecting yourself and your loved ones). Destroying/disturbing another soul's peace and harmony (its own development) is NOT allowed by the universal laws. Also, remember no matter what kind of action you take, it always comes with its consequence and you have to be responsible for it in any reality. What you put out, what you get.

Don't do something that you don't want others to do to you. If you do, you are ONLY hurting your soul and God, because that person is also you, and you are also that person. What I mean by this is that everything is a part of the Great Creator, and we are all one family.

A man who loves himself will never hurt others, but love them.

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It's Your Turn

Lastly, remember there is no truth to negativity, it's a side effect that comes from mis-believing something as if it's the truth when it's NOT. Therefore, you are believing in a bullshit and only making yourself feel bad by believing it's real. Negativity is not REAL, but what you believe is very REAL, for you.

Negative thinking will get you nowhere good and it only resists the movement of your life towards the well-being. 


Practice to expand your awareness by consciously watching over negative thought patterns, So once you are aware of them, you can start dis-identifying and disbelieving in them. Also, you need to understand that it's a physical process that negative patterns keep arising over and over until you truly let go of them.

So don't be irritated whenever it arises, stay calm and just observe them through the Cinematic Viewing, and the thought quiets itself alone if you don't respond anything. Any thought can never sustain itself without your attention. It takes some time, so be persistent and commit to your new positive thinking, when you keep it for a long time, it becomes your subconscious thought pattern.

Have any questions? Let us know!

What's your thoughts about this article? Got any idea or tips on dealing with negativity? Or have any questions or article request? Let me know in the comments. I'm always reading the comments :)

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Please share this post with others – on social media, on forum, on your blog, with your friends, with your family, to help them become the best version of themselves.

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Please remember without you, this blog is nothing. It is what it is because there is you and me, with together. I'm believing this is the only beginning of the greatest journey that awaits for us... Thank you for taking the time to read my article. Hoping a wonderful day to each one of you.

This article has been updated on 18/10/19


addiction, healing, mental disorder, mindset, negative thoughts, negativity, positivity, stillness

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  1. FINALLY! I’m sorry for the delay of the second article, it took the time more than I was expecting since I made it longer and was very busy with other things. Anyways, I hope you enjoy it!

    If you have any questions or feedback regarding this content, let me know in the comments. I always read them and reply everyone, so feel free to leave your thoughts on here. Thanks :)

      1. Hi Muteeb, thanks for your comment!

        Sorry for that, I’ve still had things to do after publishing this content so I couldn’t inform everyone through email earlier, I hope you wouldn’t mind a few hours difference because I usually have things to do, but will make sure to inform during the day when a new post has been published :-)

  2. Hello Reona,

    I just finish reading this article again. For me, since i finish reading your first article i can finally see everything that is happening inside of my head. Its like a junk Haha. It helped me alot since I’ve been through a lot of crap in my life and just staying strong cause i know everything happens for a reason and I still wanna achieve my goals in life. I dont know how to express it really but Thank you for all of your article and emails. Im reading it everyday and it made me feel like Im new, happy and Positive in every situation. It strenghen my faith and beliefs that Im on my way to my dreams. Thank you for your effort helping us to improve our lives. I cant thank you enough Reona (tears here) :’) but see you soon someday. You will be one of the person that I’ll remember when I achieve all my goals. Im halfway there Yehey. ? ?AJA!!! Godbless

  3. Gosh, seriously THANK YOU SO MUCH for the wonderful comment! I’m more than happy hearing this from you Ariane.

    Knowing how I’m being the reason for your positive change in life… you really made my day. I see you had a life-changing realization that brought you the universal awareness, which is the beginning of every GOOD thing, you are trying to live in a TRUE way, the conscious living where you are responsible for your own happiness and life as a creator. Raise your positivity and seek the LIGHT within, and BELIEVE everything is happening for the better no matter what happens, and you will be able to understand it in the end… The Universe will never betray you. I’m sure you can achieve all your dreams in your head. Even if you can’t, it’s simply because of you, not anyone else or anything, thus you can ALWAYS change it anytime and change your direction since it’s all about you. Please know how POWERFUL being you are, you can actually create your desired reality as EASY as you created undesired reality in the past, because energy is EQUAL. Practice to turn your negativity into the positivity, you will be truly amazed to what you can really accomplish. Don’t let anyone else stop you, Ariane. Hoping you all the best and hey let’s drink together one day when you are succeeded, you invite me then :’)

    Much love and light for you <3333

  4. Dear Reona:

    This is an amazing article! As an criminal defense attorney, I navigate people through a lot of sticky situations. At my firm, we very much tap into everything you have written and provide books and materials to help the clients navigate past the suffering, negative thought patterns, and use the situation for spiritual growth. I have also given many lectures on a thing I refer to as “The Joyful Journey Program” which has been an amazing success and help to many from CEOs to prisoners. So, the article you wrote is all in line with much of my work as an attorney, a lecturer, as a human trying to live as full a life that I can.

    That said, your delivery, organization, writing style, etc…is amazing. I am proudly going to put this on all of our social media and on our resource section of our website, with attribution of course.

    Thank you for the amazing job you did and your willingness to share it with the rest of the world. There is no doubt in my mind that this article will actually save lives and improve the quality of life for many!

    Peace, Bob Bianchi

    1. Bob, I’m very honored to have such a wonderful comment from someone professional like you.

      What you are trying to do as a human being is really amazing! You are helping people including prisoners in jails which I truly respect, most of the people who end up there don’t know true love and living in the darkness. I’m sure putting them in jails isn’t the real solution, only a temporary solution in a way that they can’t do crime activities as long as they’re locked in. However, there are a lot of people who will keep doing the same mistake no matter how many times he gets jailed. They have their own understandings and reason to take such an action. Unless it’s changed, people won’t change no matter what, regardless of how long he’s been in a jail or something.

      You know well that the REAL change only comes from their own mind, and the only way to help them from the darkness is giving them the light which you are doing as your job. You are spreading positivity and inspiration in this society, everyone needs them for a quality living. Please keep up the good work Bob, and thank you so much for putting me in your website and sharing! :)

  5. Hi, Reo

    Just stopping by to say that I am loving your new blog and also really proud of the person you have become today. Believe me, I now still have the image of that goofy teenage fanboy I met years ago and our random conversations we had that made us laugh so much. Times fly by really fast, doesn’t it? We’ve both grown up and changed over the years. Now, seeing the person you are today really amazes me. It is great to see your passion towards mind power and all the hard work you have spent making your dreams come true.

    I believe if you keep working hard enough, you’ll succeed definitely. I hope the best things will happen to you. You totally deserve it!

    Much love,
    A good friend of yours :)

  6. Aw, thank you very much for the wonderful comment Lynn!

    I know right? I was like 15 and was fanboying over Selena Gomez, that was crazy but definitely a good memory of mine haha! There’s nothing else better than hearing these word from my friend, thank you again for believing in my success.

    I’m very glad to have a friend like you :)

  7. I am so delighted when reading is article… I really learned a lot on from this, it immensely inspired me motivated and empowered me, I could feel my heart pounding on my chest because of excitement l feel, henceforth from now on l will no longer welcome negative thought except positive only, keep on with your great job my brother!

  8. Love the information u have shared, want to keep reading more and more on what u have available, awesome Reo. Thank u,

  9. What a beautiful and inspired article this was! I am honoured to have read such an amazing example of clear thinking and clarifying/enlightening information… I would say that I have been walking the path of light all my life-and I recognize a beautiful mind, heart and soul permiating throughout the article! Thank you! I will share it so many others can reap the benefits of your great work! Keep it up- more lightworkers will be gathered yet! Namaste!

  10. Hi Reona, I thank you so much for your email. You are so right brother. Love your mind, love your smartness
    This world needs and wants more people like you. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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