After releasing my very first article which is about Mind Power, some of my readers came up to me asking what they can do to stop their obsessive negative thoughts... because... you know they SUCK!
Well, I think I can help you with this matter since there was a time I suffered from depression myself, and I've managed to overcome it on my own without taking any medicine or therapy.
So today I want to share some tips on how to stop being addicted to thoughts from my own experience and knowledge about the mind.
Hopefully, I can help you even a little bit :)
Firstly, I want to make things clear, mental disorder could happen to anyone, no matter who you are.
That's why you should never be ignorant about your own mind...
I've never had imagined before that I would ever suffer from mental disorder one day. There's no way it can happen to this me, that's exactly what I was thinking. But you know somehow it happened. The negativity started overflowing and it consumed me, I had to suffer a lot.
Your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy.
I'm telling you this because there's a possibility for anyone to experience the same thing, out of nowhere, and it always starts from a small thought that you probably didn't even care before. The worst part is if you don't know how to deal with negative thoughts, you could easily fall into a vicious cycle and you'll begin catching yourself thinking about it over and over being overwhelmed by them every day... Damn it.
I'm sure you don't want to fall for it, or maybe you're already struggling with it...
Either you want to know how to deal with your negative thoughts or get out of this vicious cycle and be happier and healthier so you can enjoy your life. You're in the right place buddy.
It's very CRUCIAL for you to understand and learn how to LET GO of baggage in your mind, even though "letting go" is one of the most challenging things for anyone since we are all addicted to some kind of thoughts and subconsciously holding onto them which is also a part of our identity.
1. Understanding Your Obsessive Thoughts
Here's a twist.
Everyone has some kind of compulsive thinking and living in his "thought patterns" in daily life.
This is the fundamental of who you are in personality level. However, you must know that one compulsive thought could help you attract good things into your life or could be harmful and demolish your health (it can affect you physically and psychologically), and this is all depending on its context of your thought, positive or negative.
You can easily find out if that thought is positive or not, by simply observing your emotion towards that thought. Since everything in this universe is created based on "yin and yang" (the positive and the negative), like this, your each emotion/thought can be separated into yin and yang as well, either positive or negative.
You can easily judge your emotion by the guide below:
The higher it's better.
If that thought (perspective) is believed as "positive" in your subconscious mind, you will have "good" emotion when you experience that thought. If not, you will feel bad about it.
This is not your fault, but rather our society system's since it's based on fear in many aspects. So we are influenced by them and programmed to think that way.
Even the peace we have is maintained by "fear" due to weapons such as nuclear. Our peace can be easily fallen apart with a single push to the button but luckily it hasn't happened so far yet, because we are afraid of the consequences. I hope we are smart enough to not destroy ourselves.
Fear is used everywehere, from marketing, business, education, to politics and so on... pretty much everywhere.
Fear is deeply programmed into this world and it's a very strong force. Well, why is that?
It's simple, there's nothing better than "fear" to CONTROL/MANIPULATE people, and the people in the power know that well, they've been doing that for thousands of years on this planet.
Trump is a good example, he literally used fear (against immigrants and muslim) in people to gain popularity, saying they are the problem and stealing your jobs. It's exactly how Hitler gained popularity too, he did the same for Jewish people when Germany was struggling with its economics. It's always easy to blame others than yourself, it takes a lot of courage to admit that you're responsible for your own life after all.
Unfortunately, fear is so familiar with us that most people are always worrying about something in life.
So our brain is subconsciously in the habit of looking at reality in a negative way. But what the hell is exactly causing that? I'll go into more detail about this below.
1-1: The Root Cause of Your Compulsive Thoughts
Due to the habit, there are many people struggling with their own mind in the society, in a form of depression, OCD, anxiety and so on. The reason for its cause could be different for each person, however, in most cases, the origin of these mental issues and obsessive thoughts are coming from a particular belief strongly associated with fear (negativity) from past traumas, emotional pains, and such, these negative beliefs are basically existing deep in your subconscious mind.
You will conquer fear or Fear will conquer you.
1-2: How Certain Thoughts Becomes Addictive
That's crazy, isn't it!?
However, a few of them (thoughts) will matter, because you unconsciously pick up them and choose to believe in them − this process is NECESSARY to define and create your personality. These thoughts are like seeds that can potentially become your beliefs or compulsive thoughts.
The problem with your subconscious pattern, is that you take it for granted and believing it as the TRUTH of who you are, when it's nothing more than a subconscious pattern - simply a thought pattern that has been thought SO many times that it's become an "automatic" thinking which comes up to your mind over and over without your allowance or intention.
1-3: How to Free Your Negative Thoughts
You can become free from these negative thinking patterns by being aware of them and consciously dis-identifying them through relaxing your focus/attention whenever it arises.
I'm gonna talk about this in more detail at 2-3, so keep on reading :-)
2. Identifying Subconscious Patterns
As I've talked in the previous article, most of our decisions, actions, emotions, thought patterns, and behavior depend on the 95% of brain activity that is beyond our conscious awareness.
2-1: How Thoughts Transform Into Beliefs
When you think a thought long enough, it becomes an automatic thinking (belief) because the neural pathways for this thought become strongly embedded into neural network of your brain.
For example, when you drive a car for the first time, you pay so much attention which is a very conscious effort, but after a year, the whole action of driving becomes subconscious mode where you no longer have to pay attentions constantly unlike the first time.
In a sense, it's a habit that gets developed by repeating the same process all over again for a long time and the exact same thing could be said for thoughts as well.
This is the process of how a new thought becoming a strongly established belief in your subconscious mind. No thoughts ever become "beliefs" over a night or a few days, is the result of weeks/months of having the same thought about it so many times. Simply put, the more attention you give to a thought, the stronger it becomes.
2-2: Negativity Attracts More Negativity
Certain negative thoughts are running on autopilot mode in your brain, and these negative thoughts are mostly the root cause of many other negative perceptions and interpretations that you come up with in your daily life.
2-3: How to Neutralize Your Negative Thoughts & Emotions
I want you to remember that the real problem isn't the "negative pattern" itself, but HOW you choose to respond to it, will determine your next experience about that thought.
Many of us tend to take thought patterns very personally and get affected by them as soon as they arise, while some people can remain completely calm and relaxed where they are just observing their thoughts and emotions without being affected by them − it is the state where you are fully in charge of your thoughts and emotion, instead of they controlling you.
This ultimate calmness can be easily achieved through using the technique (let's call it "Cinematic Viewing") which I've taught you here. Using the Cinematic Viewing, you will no longer become the slave to your mind. By practicing it in your daily life, you can increase your control level over your thoughts and emotions significantly.
This is a extremely powerful visualization method I use to neutralize anything that comes up to my mind, so I recommend you to try this if you are having a hard time to deal with negative thoughts or emotions.
Now, let me show you how you can do that with the screenshot I took from the previous article :)
How to Cinematic Viewing:
3. Subconscious Patterns & How They Affect You
"Subconscious mind" is simply a term used to point to activities that are generally beyond your awareness and running on autopilot mode. These subconscious patterns (beliefs) become observable when you deepen your awareness, and will be able to see it clearly how these patterns are underlying many of your perceptions and interpretations you come up with in your daily life.
These are some of negative patterns (limiting-beliefs) many of us have:
- Life is hard!
- I need to compete with others to succeed in life!
- People always leaves me!
- It's tough to earn money!
- I can't trust anyone!
- I'm incomplete and never will be!
- I don't deserve to be happy because I'm a bad person!
- No one loves me!
Aren't some of the beliefs familiar to you?
You've had these thoughts at some point of your life and accepted as the truth of who you are or what reality is, and they may be running on autopilot mode presently. These core negative beliefs are the root cause of new negative perceptions and interpretation, which are constantly produced in your mind.
So for example, what if someone told you are ugly even you are not?
As soon as you hear it, I'm sure many of you will immediately start worrying about your looks and how others seeing you (unless you have an absolute confidence in yourself).
Otherwise, you start to become insecure about your appearance, because YOU believe you are ugly, NOT because someone else said so.
So in a way, if you are truly believing your own worth and value, you will never be affected by someone's opinion of you. You know you are beautiful no matter what, so even if someone else thinks you are not, you are completely fine, where understanding that someone's idea of you does NOT define who you really are. Because it really doesn't, unless you let their opinion of you define you.
With that said, remember you are the only ONE who can define yourself!
"Calling a man "stupid" who truly sees himself as a genius is nonsense."
3-1: Nobody Else Can Define Who You Are
Nothing can define you, except yourself, you are defining/creating yourself (who you are) by comparing yourself to other people in your reality. Your emotional reaction/subconscious pattern is simply a reflection of what you are believing as TRUE, and they come from your own definitions about things, never outside circumstance.
"Circumstances do not matter, the only state of being matters." − Bashar
3-2: Definitions Rule Your Subconscious Patterns
Perspective (definition) is everything, it's all about how you CHOOSE to see it.
A girl grown up from a poor family, and a girl from a rich family have very different way of seeing life, so is their experience in life. Different mindset, different realities.
Like this way, everyone is living in his/her subconscious thought patterns created by their own definitions, and experiencing/seeing this physical reality through their own perspectives.
3-3: You Are Beyond Your Beliefs & Mind
Remember you always have the power to change your consciousness, it's never separated from you. You are the consciousness itself and have the total freedom to choose everything!
Believe it or not, as a soul, you chose your place, you chose your parents, you chose your sexuality, you chose your thoughts, you chose your emotion, you chose what to believe... you chose everything around you.
Doesn't matter whether your physical mind DO NOT think so or can't understand it. This is the universal fact that no one can change. Also, it's impossible for the physical mind to understand it anyway.
"When you realize all things that truly matter - beauty, love, creativity, joy, inner peace - arise from beyond the mind, you begin to awaken."
3-4: Everything is a Choice in the Universe
The universe unconditionally loves you and has given each soul the "Free Will" to experience your realities. It doesn't judge good or bad, it's a human perspective. As we are all part of his creation, you get to choose everything, but you forgot this fact when you came down to this physical reality. Many people abandoned the responsibility for their own life and experiences, they're living like a victim of their own reality.
However you choose to live, is your total choice as the creator of your own reality and the universe always admires his son/daughter's will, unconditionally. That is what an unconditional love all about.
Don't do something that you don't want others to do to you. If you do, you are ONLY hurting your soul and God, because that person is also you, and you are also that person. What I mean by this is that everything is a part of the Great Creator, and we are all one family.
A man who loves himself will never hurt others, but love them.
It's Your Turn
Lastly, remember there is no truth to negativity, it's a side effect that comes from mis-believing something as if it's the truth when it's NOT. Therefore, you are believing in a bullshit and only making yourself feel bad by believing it's real. Negativity is not REAL, but what you believe is very REAL, for you.
Negative thinking will get you nowhere good and it only resists the movement of your life towards the well-being.
So don't be irritated whenever it arises, stay calm and just observe them through the Cinematic Viewing, and the thought quiets itself alone if you don't respond anything. Any thought can never sustain itself without your attention. It takes some time, so be persistent and commit to your new positive thinking, when you keep it for a long time, it becomes your subconscious thought pattern.
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